The 7 Things Women Need Before Having Sex With a Younger Man
BY ALICE WALSH
The appeal of having a relationship with an older woman comes from the unique dynamic of how things progress. Older women know what they want in a partner, and aren’t afraid to speak their minds.
They’re confident, self-sufficient, and far more confident in bed to make sex with a younger man hit all the right spots.
So, how do you seduce one of these irresistible women? Just follow these ways to find out.
What Women Need Before Having Sex With a Younger Man
If you can develop yourself to deliver on these seven you will put yourself in the best position possible with an older woman.
Confident body language and eye contact
Older women don’t expect to be courted and seduced like younger do, but they have to be earned. By ‘earned’ we mean you will have to show her that you’re worth her time.
Don’t expect a positive response if you approach her in your jeans, t-shirt and baseball hat, half-slurring a cheesy pickup line that she’s heard dozens of times. This is really not going to work for you. If you spot any signals in her body language that indicate her interest you need to step up your game.
She’s dated that type of guys in her 20s, now she’s way past it. Being confident and knowing your worth (but also your weaknesses and strong sides) can help you present yourself in a light that will attract her attention.
Be direct and upfront with your own intentions and desires.
Although sleeping with an older woman is easier than with a younger one, there are still a few rules about the process of courtship. Generally, you are likely to receive clearer signals when you flirt with a women that’s older than you, but this doesn’t mean they will jump straight into bed.
Sex with a younger man is a journey both of you will have to take together and this includes making an effort to earn her.
Strong, assertive behavior inside and outside of the bedroom.
Courtship for older women is a process of two strong personalities exploring the mutual connection (be it sexual, emotional, intellectual) and letting things go at their natural pace.
You will absolutely have to be able to hold a conversation that doesn’t revolve around sports, alcohol or your ex(s). Stories that begin with ‘One time, I was so drunk I…’ are off the table.
Sex with a younger man for older women is the ending to an intense and playful process of two consenting adults exploring the attraction they’ve felt.
If you interest her with your opinions, tastes, views on life and ability to calmly and assertive make a point in a conversation – she will want to take things further.
Ability to take constructive criticism and learn from it.
It’s common for men to be overly confident (check out our tips for better sex with older women if you need a boost) and even come off a bit stronger than expected. Society encourages this, but as women get older they start looking for actual qualities that show them that a man has character and worth.
A confident man is able to take criticism – be it regarding his performance in the bedroom or his life choices and learn from it without getting offended. That is an extremely appealing quality in a guy as it shows he can listen and is open to positive change.
A broad range of interests and refined tastes that make you interesting to talk to.
Older women prefer to visit places with great ambiance, where they can enjoy a glass of fine wine and have a conversation without shouting over the music in the background. Trendy jazz bars and upscale hotel bars are a good place to start.
Outside of bars, you can find them on town boards, volunteering or chaperoning social events. Obviously, if you’re interested in meeting an older woman, you will have to step outside of your comfort zone and start trying new things.
What’s even more – you will have to offer her something other than sex with a younger guy like an interesting conversation and good taste in things she finds interesting like books, movies, wine, travel, etc.
With older women, the fact that she’s more experienced than you actually becomes a benefit (believe it or not). Some men think it to be a drawback and go overboard with being too assertive, bordering on aggression and arrogance, but, believe you me – she knows she has more experience and she’s still interested.
You’re good! Sex with a younger man is somewhat tantalizing for older women that way because, for the first time in their lives, there is a power flip and they are in the dominant role.
And that is a major turn-on. But you have to be emotionally mature to be able to handle it and let her lead the way and play your part to let things naturally spill over into the bedroom.
Confidence and self-worth that is not affected by labels
Society has come a long way since the days when sex with a younger man was frowned upon, but this doesn’t mean you won’t get the occasional side glance when you’re out in public.
There’s no need to pretend you don’t notice the age difference. Don’t try to get her attention by saying things like ‘You would never have guessed she’s older than you’.
This only shows her the age gap is a problem for you. Instead, acknowledge it and move on. If it doesn’t bother you, be calm and confident about the choice in dating her.
Don’t justify it, don’t explain yourself to her or anyone else. This will give her the peace of mind that you know what you want in life and are not afraid to pursue it.
BY ALICE WALSH
Alice Walsh is a US-born dating expert who is currently living in Scotland and loving it. She has been sharing her expertise for many years with a specialization in providing actionable advice for dating and relationships.